1 – Can They Follow Instructions?
Try sending an email with simple instructions. If they can’t find the time, they won’t respect your plans. It sounds dumb and simple but, you sometimes learn how little people respect you, until it’s too late. Being asked to do small favors seem like acid to someone who can’t process respecting you. You also find out who’s a fck up earlier.
2 – Do You Catch Them Online or In Public Settings Copying You?
They secretly envy you and wouldn’t mind taking your place or helping someone destroy you. This person doesn’t feel you deserve your abilities and feel they could do more with it. They don’t have the patience or the courage to try at life and engineering it. This requires looking wrong at times. And successful people are okay with being wrong if it evolves towards the win. These people are too lazy to do all of that and see you as their ticket.
3 – Can They Pay or Loan $100 or less?
If they don’t return loans under $100 they won’t respect you if you loan them more. If they can’t loan you $20, they probably don’t trust you. People who are ethical pride on their ability to be reliable but, they also know when they’re friends aren’t shit. If you’ve burned them, you can’t get mad at them for not waiting to see if you’ve improved. You also can’t expect better behavior when more money comes into play, especially if they can’t pay you back, even if it’s a little.
4 – They Challenge Your Opportunities
If you provide an opportunity and they challenge the offer as impossible, or pick the opportunity apart, that’s the best red flag ever. This person doesn’t respect your intelligence or capabilities. They will turn everything into a fight and drain you professional and financially. In many ways they don’t like the way you operate. And that’s sometimes based on their inability to see growth or you having impeccable boundaries. Not all people are meant to be apart of your plans and that’s okay.
5 – They Need To Constantly Humble You
As you start to grow, they feel the need to constantly humble you, even for simple things like finding money on the ground or receiving surprise help for hurdles. It’s one thing to be negative but, if they can’t celebrate your small wins, they won’t be happy for your bigger ones.
6 – Secret OP
Some people don’t show they are your opposition until they really see how good your doing. When they don’t see your wins and assume they’re doing better it’s all supportive speeches and self help chats. But secretly they don’t think your good enough to be successful. This shows up by you presenting a new goal (that’s secretly working) or career change and their first response is to professionally demote you in their minds. This comes with suggestions to suddenly go back to school (after you graduated from college) or work FOR someone with even less skills.
7 – They Get Clingy
If it’s a family member they’re watching every move you make, online, in person. If you live with your support, they’re constantly walking back and forth while you work, making noises to get your attention, or even distract you to dampen your light. If you’re in a relationship suddenly they want constant intimacy or a baby. Anything to latch themselves so if you make it, they have a reason to control your space and time.
8 – They Brag About You To Others But Ignore You
This is a person that see you’re about to make it and they want everyone to know you’re in their possession. Not paying attention, you can suddenly become that person’s tool. The favors for others, on their behalf, suddenly gets expanded. You start to realize they’re using your skills to gain access in spaces they otherwise couldn’t go. If they’re not apart of your success strategy, be ready to distance yourself. They confuse their access to you as control. It’s the biggest issue because it can sneak up on you. Compliments can lull a person and seem harmless but, compliments without empathy can quickly turn into economic abusive.
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